Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

Dear Readers,

I got this forward from Vic. But I removed the god ones because I didnt think much of them,  there are overall 42 i’m posting here.

My favourite is: “23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.”

Enjoy!
Stacy

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42 Lessons on Life by a 90 Year Old.

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more.
- By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift

Swine Flu

Thoughts on Swine Flu

Dear Readers,

I know that this swine flu business is old news. But I just had to share a Winnie-the-Pooh story with you, given to me by Michelle.

Have a laugh!

 

Giggling while working,
Stacy

AWARE wins vote of no confidence

Dear Readers,

The Old Guards won! I am so happy! Rushed home to see the results, and we won the vote of no confidence, 1414 For VS 761 Against! The Old Guard put up a good fight, and galvanised so many Singaporean women, (men too, but they can’t vote). I joined the 2 facebook groups, and it is good to read and interact with passionate Singaporeans, Singaporeans who take stances on issues rather than sit on the fences and are afraid to make a judgement.

The reports say there are roughly 3,000 AWARE members now, compared to 300 in March. This means that AWARE has raised around..108,000SGD in the past 2 months, but guess what, the NEW EX-CO (the christian fundamentalists) spent 90,000SGD last month! ARGH MAKES ME SO ANGRY!!!!!!

Now with the Old Guards back in the game, I wonder if my Singapore window has just opened…

Very very happy,
Stacy

For more information:

www.we-are-aware.sg

New Exco is given vote of no confidence

AWARE’s New Exco has spent some 90,000$ since taking office

Writing a Love List – advice from a hopeful.

Dear Readers,

Wow, I am just really surprised that I got 62 hits on my blogsite just from my short brief post of  “How to get lucky in love“

There are alot of us out there looking and hoping to get lucky in love. And if you did read the article, there was a brief mention of writing a love list.

When I googled “how to write a love list” , there wasn’t much material on the topic. So here I go, contributing to the magic ‘How To’s’ DIY Love articles .

Check out these two articles on Oprah.com
The Love List  (really lovely story)
The Truth about Magic Lists

My previous Love List
So, thinking back, I do have my own personal experience with writing  a love list.  It was back in … 2002, when Rita, Heather, Andrea and I -  sat down and listed 99 qualities of our ideal man.

Most were really silly like:

11. is tall (er) <–(note: for Rita and I, this isn’t a demanding requirement at all)
12. know some magic tricks
47. know how to play guitar, or be able to serenade
or..
68. have eyes that pierce into the deepest depths of our soul (Heather made that one)

And at the bottom of the list, we wrote
For candidates who have a score below 95 – Don’t bother us.
For candidates who have a score of 95 – 99 – Date-able.
For candidates who have a 99 score – Marriage proposal expected.

hahah or something to that extent. And we printed the list in colour, and taped it on our dorm-room doors. I bet it scared all the men away. 

hahaha…good times…good times…

I think it was 3 years back when I realised, you know what? screw lists! I have to be more open minded about who I date, not if he isn’t this…isn’t that. Who cares?  Love should be unconditional and non-judgemental.

Correct, non?

My thinking is, if there is a list or..criteria…then..there is bound to be  some men who are splendid and wonderful (LADIES – think positive, THEY MUST EXIST!!!) that fall outside my criteria range. <–because I might not know what I really want.  And in that case, they will be  ignored?

So since then, I don’t really have a distinctive ‘type’ of man in mind. All I request is for him to be caring, loveable, and geeky.

Anyways, back to writing the love list. The point I was getting at, is up to this moment, Mr.Ideal from 2002, has never surfaced. The reason for this was because back then, the list was quite shallow…

Getting in the right mind-set…realising what we really want in that special someone.
According to that Oprah article, our inner-self has  3 overlapping circles. (like this diagram) 

1. The Shallows 
2. The Ring of Fire
3. The Core of Peace

(STOP ROLLING YOUR EYES. )

If you ask me, that article is damn bloody confusing. I found a much better article to explain it, click here

Stacy’s interpretation of unclear new age lingo:
The Shallows - we want more money, we want to drive a better looking car, date rich people, date slim girls (ARGH I CANT BELIEVE PEOPLE POST THAT AS A REQUIREMENT IN THE PERSONAL ADS!!!!) Getting the drift? Everything concerned here is surface level only. We are defined by what we own, what we are in terms of our career.  At this level,  we chase material items to increase our happiness.

The Ring of Fire - An emotional process we have to go through. Literally, some form of hell, some sort of loss that will shake us up and make us realise our core of peace. 

The Core of Peace – So after walking through and surving the Ring of Fire, we can realise our core essence. If you shed away all the material possessions you hold that you feel define who you are. Your values. Your character. Your dreams. Your pure self.

Finally getting down to it…drafting that Love List
So ideally, for the love list to work. We have to list 100 qualities we want in our special partner in terms of REAL Genuine terms.

For example:

Love List no-no’s
1. Make enough money for us to afford 2 cars.
2. Come from a rich family background.
3. Have a slim slender body

Love List-ables
1. Have similar family values.
2. Have a good sense of humour.
3. Be a conversationalist.

Also, I also read that, when we make lists, we should omit the words, “don’t” “not” from our list.

For example, if you know you don’t want to date a cheap person, then write, I want to meet someone generous. 

I guess we have to focus on what we really want in our ideal partner, qualities, traits and characteristics. Do not focus on their possessions, or anything that is temporary.  

 Writing the Love List
So get a piece of paper. (preferably lined). Or if you prefer, open up MS Word, and start listing out ONE HUNDRED real and true qualities you look for in your ideal match. 

When you are finished, put it aside, and see whether your ideal person will walk into your life.

The idea is, you channel and clearly tell the universe what you want, and the universe will give it to you. (THANK YOU UNIVERSE!!!)

I didn’t expect this blog post to take so long to write (its now almost 2am!)  I’m going to sign off and sit on my bed, with my pen &  paper and write my love list. I am a bit boggled how on earth I’ll come up with 100 qualities (because honestly at the moment I only have 3 – loveable, caring and geeky)

Whatever you do. I say, hide the list. So that no one knows it except for you. Because, you can imagine the psychotic nightmare of someone finding your list, acting out all those qualities and tricking you into falling in love with him/her! (Fine, I admit, I watch too much TV…but still… you never know.)

If your love list does work, please let me know. I’d be super interested to find out, and it’s always lovely to hear a romantic story from time to time.

Everyone deserves to love and be loved.

Good luck and may love flow into our lives

Your romantic hopeful,
Stacy

How to Get Lucky in Love

Dear Readers,

Just clicked into cnn.com, and saw this article

How to get Lucky in Love 

It is quite a long article, but quite a good logical read. Click the oprah links inside the article if you had time. Anyways just wanted to share it.

Preparing my mind for what I want,
Stacy